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Seeing Climate Change in Your Own Backyard

Living in Wisconsin immeasurable opportunities to escape.  When I am angry, sad, broken down mentally or physically, getting outside makes a huge difference to me.  Relief comes from equal parts seeing nature doing its thing with no regard to my concerns and my putting technology away for a few hours. On a millennial time scale however, nature isn't as chill as it looks.  When I look closely, I can't help but notice that plants, animals, insects and even inert objects are stressing out these past few years.  Monarch butterflies I used to net and study are nowhere to be seen in the fields and parks. Eastern Bluebirds no longer frequent fence lines along roads that I walk and bike. Whitetail deer wander through my yard at all times of the day to graze on Becki's flowers, garden plants, and in winter, birdseed in her feeders.  It is late January and there has been little snow cover, daily high temperatures last week exceeded 50°F, breaking records in many parts of ...
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A Complete Unknown: Lessons from Bob Dylan

  I have to admit, I have never been much of a Bob Dylan fan.  To cut myself a little slack, the guy has made a career out of being misunderstood.  From the nasal, unmelodic vocals to the acoustic guitar strumming and jarring harmonica interjections, it just never was my kind of music.  He is a legend.  Good for him. Today I went to see the biopic A Complete Unknown about his arrival in New York and the storm that ensued after Pete Seeger and Woody Guthrie, the latter weakened by Huntington's disease and bedridden in a New Jersey convalescent home, were taken by the teenager troubadour from Minnesota. Most of the scenes felt exaggerated and forced, the charming but tortured Dylan churning out stunning lyrics one after another.  Everyone loved everything, and women including folk legend Joan Baez wanted to own him.  One after another, Bob Dylan broke away and established himself as the property of no one.  That included record labels and the Folk M...

Elegy for my Uncle Duane

  On December the 6th, Mom did a rare thing and text messaged me.   "Don't want to spoil your weekend but just got news Duane has lung cancer.  I talked to him tonight.  He said the doctors give him 18 to 20 mo.  He has chosen not to do chemo as they don't offer much additional time with it.  We can talk more about it when you get home." Daniel and I were in Boston, just finding our seats for the Milwaukee Bucks to take on the Boston Celtics at TD Gardens.  We flew in that day for a "father/son weekend" and were enjoying the first of several experiences I had hoped he could recall when his anxiety and ADHD made life difficult, if not desperate.  They aren't a cure, but if he really gets down, I want him to know I will do anything with him. My Aunt Rhonda passed away suddenly at the age of 70 after a botched surgery to repair her bowel, when surgical mesh from a previous hernia surgery became problematic.  No one expected the surgeon to n...

Delve Deck: What toys did you have as a kid that would be considered too dangerous today?

  My childhood was less sheltered that that of my kids.  Just the presence of parents changes risk, and my parents were absent for much of my youth.  Not absent in a bad way, just occupied with adult life, leaving their kids to find their own diversions.  This wasn't markedly different than the way their parents raised them.  Something definitely changed about parenting in my generation.  We were more involved, competitive with other parents, longing to be friends with our kids and needing their approval in so many ways. This is evidenced by our childhood activities and especially in our toys.  One major difference is the marketing and branding of toys.  Manufacturers improved the realism of toys and now give kids accessories to play that require very little imagination.  Toys look like the real thing, and advertisements show kids how to properly play with them.  This is a far stretch from the sticks my friends and I picked up that becam...

Fishing on Thin Ice (The Final Tip-Up)

This past Monday morning found me waiting for a flight home from Boston, thumbing through the news on my phone.  One article caught my eye because it mentioned a missing ice fisherman from my hometown who had gone out alone the previous night and never return home to his wife.  Immediately my thoughts went to my brother-in-law, the county sheriff who would have undoubtedly been coordinating the search, rescue, or more likely, recovery of this individual.  I said a silent prayer for his safety and for the others involved in the tragedy. Decembers on the Kewaunee River are not like they used to be.  It has been several years since ice has frozen to a thickness that will support a fisherman safely.  Last year, fisherman had no more than 10 days of safe ice the entire season, and that makes them even more itchy to get out there after at the first cold snap. When I arrived home that afternoon, I received the unfortunate news that I had a lot of connections to the vic...

Back to School... NOT!

About a month ago, the children in Wisconsin returned to school for another year.  So did the teachers. But for the first time in 54 years, Scott Oftedahl did not.  I have moved in a new direction, driving trucks, and no longer hear bells, kids chattering in hallways, and feel my days pulled in one way or another by the emotions of teachers and students. It started out feeling odd, moving around the community while instruction was going on in classrooms.  I felt as though I were doing something sneaky, unethical.  I was never one to skip school as a student, and as a teacher, I had an outstanding attendance record, as well.  Unless I was deathly sick or had a medical appointment, I reported to school and worked hard. Last year, something changed.  The year began normally, but I noticed I was beginning to grind against the decisions made by a newer superintendent.  Many of her decisions were based on incorrect information, but she didn't respond when gi...

Ready and Willing

  When I am asked how my day went, do I lead with the moments of joy or do I lay out all my frustrations?  My choices reflect my overall mindset.   Positivity and gratitude was a key part of my life, even through the pandemic.  After divorcing with my wife of 23 years, struggling with job-related anxiety, and living beyond my means for too many years resulting in mounting debt, I needed to make some changes.  Meeting Becki and her daughter Sophia jolted me into a new phase.  My son Daniel ran headlong into anxiety, health issues with his vision, and real problems with executive functioning leading to him dropping out of college.  Suddenly my own problems were put into perspective and I felt compelled to face them. My anxiety stems from a self-imposed expectation that I have the answers to everyone's problems.  Call it hero complex or something else, I have formed my identity as one who has the correct solution for everything, and who can be r...